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the world is going to shit, mum: why my boy is learning survival skills

The Little Man (not so little anymore, but always to be my Little Man) has recently developed quite an interest in survival skills.

He’s been shaping a bow shaft and making arrowheads from bits of wood. Whittling knife blades and learning about flint napping. Reading about what you can eat and what you can’t eat in the bush. And learning how to make rope from tree bark and vines.

While driving to Armidale last week, I questioned him about this new interest.

(Seriously, mums of soon-to-be teenage boys – the best place to have conversations with them is in the car. They are your captive audience! Put on a few of their tunes and start a conversation. You might be surprised at what you learn…)

His response was not what I thought it was going to be…

“Donald Trump is going to fuck things up, Mum. And we need to be prepared because it’s not only going to affect America. It’s going to affect us too.”

I took a few minutes to formulate my response, because, to be honest, his answer kind of floored me.

Little Man followed the recent U.S. election with great interest and was as shocked as the rest of the world at the results. He now listens carefully to news reports and reads world news from a variety of sources, obviously coming to his own conclusions from what he reads.

An honest and open conversation about imports, exports, trade agreements and sustainable living – interspersed with our shared love of black humour – lasted the next 30 minutes to Armidale. It was a conversation that made me grateful I have a son who takes an interest in the world at large.  Grateful even more that I have the relationship I do with him.  And it made me realise that having conversations like this with your children are important…

…because you never quite now what another person is thinking until you ask

Little Man and his pocket knife getting ready to shape arrowheads
preparing to make a blow dart gun
the Little Man is not a boy anymore
hammer and chisel blows
hollowing out a section of wood
my Little Man deep in thought

As to his choice of language, we’re a family that allows swearing, which you can read more about here.

In the comments, I’d love to hear:

Do you have regular, deep-and-meaningful conversations with your kids?

And what has been their reaction to the new president of the United States?

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taking stock #011

marathoning the gilmore girls these holidays

I’ve been looking forward to taking stock #011.  It usually takes me a few days, working in bursts, to get this post written.  I love that it does make me stop and take stock.  Think about the things that have been going right and not so right lately.

Have you considered doing your own life stock take?

Making: earrings for the upcoming Autumn/Winter collection – Simplicity.
Cooking: a simple delicious alternative to pasta – zucchini, spinach and garlic, stir fried with coconut oil.
Drinking: water kefir – 250 mL daily – to help with my gut health.
Reading‘The Girl Who Saved the King of Sweden’ by Jonas Jonasson.  I read ‘The Hundred Year Old Man Who Climbed Out of the Window and Disappeared’  first.  Loved it.  Loving the Girl as well.  Highly, highly recommend them!
Wanting: a weekend off the mountain still…
Looking: at taking an overseas holiday this year.
Playing: the ‘Guardians of the Galaxy’  soundtrack… loud, with dancing and singing included!
Deciding: on a birthday gift for my Girl.
Wishing: for my energy levels to get back to normal.
Enjoying: the laziness of school holidays and the lack of routine.
Waiting: for school term to start… back to work…
Liking: dinners on the deck in the late afternoon sunshine.
Wondering: what 2017 will bring.
Loving: my daily drink of water kefir.
Pondering: what direction to take.
Considering: buying a car for the Girl.  Weighing up the pros and cons at the moment, as it’s a big commitment for her.
Watching: or rather marathoning ‘Gilmore girls’  with my Little Man.  I love Lorelai’s bent sense of humour.
Hoping: that my Muse makes a return soon.
Marvelling: at just how complex and interrelated a system our bodies can be, and how sometimes modern medicine just doesn’t seem to get that.
Needing: a weekend off the mountain.
Smelling: the beetles at night.
Wearing: my new Kowtow dresses.
Following: the yellow brick road….
Noticing: how much my Little Man is growing.  New shoes soon, for sure.
Knowing: that I cannot do it all.
Thinking: about what’s for dinner…. I get so sick of deciding what we will eat every night.
Feeling: relaxed after a morning meditation and affirmations session.
Admiring: the dogged determination of my Little Man as he builds a dam.
Sorting: through and shredding paperwork from last year.
Buying: as little as possible.  Embracing the minimalist way of life.
Getting: up at 7 a.m. every morning and trying to prepare myself for the school term and earlier morning starts.
Bookmarking: lots of interesting stuff to share on my Facebook pages.
Disliking: negativity.
Opening: the washing machine to hang the n-th load of washing.
Giggling: at Lorelai’s jokes.
Snacking: on blueberry and pear smoothies.
Coveting: a weekend off the mountain (yes, there’s a theme here!)
Wishing: that people would pick up their own shit and not leave shoes in the middle of the doorway.
Helping: out friends as needed.
Hearing: the dog snore.

In the comments, I’d love to hear:

Are you a fan of Gilmore girls?  And marathoned any good t.v. shows lately that you’d recommend?

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9 simple ways to just do as much as you can

blurred photo of woman standing in forest

“besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone.
the wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials.”
~ Lin Yutang

Life can be complicated. We’re all busy.  Too much to do, too little time to do it. Work. Family. Business. Friends. Commitments. Life. Too many demands on your time and all with conflicting agendas.

Sound familiar?

It was while reading the latest edition of Flow that I came across the phrase ‘just do as much as you can.

I read that phrase and there was a lightbulb moment for me. A sense of joy to know that others were embracing the do-less-go-slow concept. That I’m not alone and not lazy. And the realisation that I wanted to commit to this concept for the next 12 months.

If I’m honest with myself, I’ve been doing this for the last 12 months already. The last 3 months out of necessity, not choice, as my health and energy levels plummeted to all-time lows.

Letting others do for me, and not insisting on doing everything myself. Giving my inner perfectionist permission to leave the mess. Not spending my every waking hour in helper mode. Delegating more at home and freeing up my time for things I love and excel at.  Just doing as much as I can.

it’s time to slow down

I can hear you all inwardly screaming “But how do I do that?  I’ve got too much to do and not enough time to do it!”

Here are 11 ways to get you started:

Make a conscious decision to do less. Focus on what is important, what needs to be done and let the rest go. It might take some practice but keep at it.

Find pleasure in what you are doing when you are doing it. Chose one task to do mindfully today, like, folding the washing. It’s fresh from the line, crisp and clean, and most importantly, now folded.

Disconnect from your technology.  The constant interruptions of messages and calls, and being at the mercy and demands of others. There are benefits to being unreachable.

Be present when you are with others. Without close contact with other people, we grow into cold, lonely beings. Make time every single day to spend with loved ones. Listen. Share stories. Share moments. And you won’t end up with a single death-bed regret.

Learn to say “no”. Alexandra Franzen has even written a 5 step script to saying the perfect ‘no’ if you’re stuck on how to do it graciously.

Eat slower. Savour the flavours, the texture, the taste. And take the time to eat proper food at a sit-down dinner with your family.  Ask about their day and talk about yours. It’s important.

Drive slower. Notice the sights when you drive. Wave to passers-by. Allow yourself to enjoy your inner Miss Daisy.

Stop multi-tasking. Focus on just one task. If you find yourself tempted to wander, stop, breathe and come back mentally to what you are doing.

Take a moment to breathe. There will be moments when the stress and overwhelm will hit.  This is when you stop and take a moment to breathe. And if you need to, take another breath. Continue breathing until the feeling has passed.

and just do as much as you can

2017 is my year to embrace the simplicity, to find time to unwind and to slow down the pace of life.

want to join me?

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living a perfectly imperfect life

give yourself permission to embrace the imperfect and savour the perfect that you already have my life isn’t perfect

There are messes. There are hard days, hard weeks actually. But in the middle of it all, there is also joy.  And I’m savouring those moments because they all too quickly pass us by.

To live a perfectly imperfect life means embracing where I am each day. Taking it one day at a time and enjoying the things that matter most. Focusing on the good stuff and forgetting the rest.

it means stopping the chase for a perfect that doesn’t exist and living in the perfect that I already have

It’s giving myself permission for things to be less than “perfect”.  And with that permission, there is a freedom. A freedom from the burden of trying to always be perfect. Less stressed and so much happier knowing that I don’t have to do it all and do it perfectly.

Instead, I focus on what is already perfect.  I am present in the moment, and I enjoy what I already have and am happy with it.

Because this is my imperfect life, and I am going to enjoy those perfectly imperfect moments as much as I can.

In the comments, I’d love to hear:

Are you giving yourself permission to live a perfectly imperfect life?

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why photography is important to me

boy and his dog laying on the mat in companionable silence

Photography is not like painting. There is a creative fraction of a second when you are taking a picture. Your eye must see a composition or an expression that life itself offers you, and you must know with intuition when to click the camera.
That is the moment the photographer is creative. Oop! The Moment! Once you miss it, it is gone forever.

the decisive moment

A phrase coined by Henri Cartier-Bresson to describe that creative fraction of a second that captures the essence of a person or moment in time.
And to me, being able to capture that decisive moment is such a powerful thing.
Being able to create images that show who someone is.  Real life images that capture a slice of what was going on in that one split second.

decisive moments with my boy and his dog

I remember a time when my Little Man was terrified of all animals, big and small. And now, it is not uncommon to find him laying on the mat next to the dog, communing in silence through scratches under the ear and huffs and puffs of breath.

It’s these moments that I love to capture. Moments that may seem trivial and meaningless, but that are packed full of emotion and memory.

Though I am on the other side of the lens, the act of looking through the viewfinder and seeing those moments, slow me down and connect me with the present.
And the experience of noticing what is happening around me, and the love the images invoke in me, is my greatest inspiration for photography of all.

In the comments, I’d love if you would:

Tell me why photography is important to you.

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